Helpful Websites

A breakdown of bullying statistics and facts

A useful tip sheet from The American Psychological Association addressing beliefs about school bullying supported by research.

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN) provides resources for families, teens, educators, clinicians, mental health professionals and law enforcement personnel on bullying.

Dedicated to engaging and educating communities nationwide to address bullying through creative, relevant and interactive resources.

This site from the U.S. Health Resources and Services Administration offers fun games, webisodes and other resources designed to teach children about bullying prevention.

A resource from StopBullying.gov addressing detection, prevention strategies and effective responses to bullying.

Recommended Books

For Parents:

The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Preschool to HighSchool--How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle

By: Barbara Coloroso

ISBN-10: 0061744603

It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incidents as a normal part of childhood. All it takes to understand that this is a recipe for tragedy is a glance at headlines across the country. In this updated edition of The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, which includes a new section on cyberbullying, one of the world's most trusted parenting educators gives parents, caregivers, educators—and most of all, kids—the tools to break the cycle of violence.

Bullyproof Your Child For Life: Protect Your Child from Teasing, Taunting, and Bullying for Good

By: Joel Haber

ISBN-10: 0399533184

As featured in the New York Times-an expert's proven technique for stamping out bullying. Delivering a practical, supportive, and step-by-step "bullyproofing prescription" that yields lasting results for both boys and girls, from grade school through high school, Bullyproof Your Child for Life offers specific action steps to help any child build resilience and confidence, develop compassion and trust, and thrive in school, camp, sports, and beyond.

Stick Up for Yourself: Every Kid's Guide to Personal Power & Positive Self-Esteem

By: Gershen Kaufman, Lev Raphael and Pamela Espeland

ISBN-10: 1575420686

The ultimate resource for any kid who’s ever been picked on at school, bossed around, blamed for things he or she didn’t do, or treated unfairly—and for any kid who sometimes feels frustrated, angry, powerless, or scared. Simple words and real-life examples show how children can stick up for themselves with other kids (including bullies and teasers), big sisters and brothers, even grown-ups. Kids learn how to build relationships, become responsible, manage their anger, grow a “feelings vocabulary,” make good choices, solve problems, set goals, and “store” happiness and pride.

Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls

By: Rachel Simmons

ISBN-10: 0156027348

Dirty looks and taunting notes are just a few examples of girl bullying that girls and women have long suffered through silently and painfully. With this book Rachel Simmons elevated the nation's consciousness and has shown millions of girls, parents, counselors, and teachers how to deal with this devastating problem. Poised to reach a wider audience in paperback, including the teenagers who are its subject, Odd Girl Out puts the spotlight on this issue, using real-life examples from both the perspective of the victim and of the bully.

The Parent's Book about Bullying: Changing the Course of Your Child's Life

By: William Voors

ISBN-10: 156838517X

This clear, well-written, practical guide describes bullying and its impact. Most importantly, it offers a sensible how-to approach for improving children's self image so that they are more well-behaved when they go to schools, playgrounds, and day care. In addition, parents learn how to examine themselves in order to better model healthy, assertive, nonaggressive behavior.

The Essential Guide to Bullying: Prevention And Intervention

By: Cindy Miller and Cynthia Lowen

ISBN-10: 1615642064

Headlines are filled with tragic stories of senseless murders and suicides that have resulted from child and teen bullying. As social networking and technology add to the ways that kids can be bullied, parents feel powerless against this insidious force that compels even "good" kids to participate in or enable bullying in schools, in extracurricular activities, online, and at home. 

The Essential Guide to Bullying brings together the wisdom and experience of two people who have witnessed bullying's causes and tragic effects. School social worker Cindy Miller teams with Cynthia Lowen to arm parents and teachers with the knowledge they need to:

  •  Understand the societal and human forces that are causing bullying to escalate.

  •  Discover who is most at risk for being bullied, being a bully, or not helping a bullying victim.

  •  Target-proof their kids and teach them coping skills.

  •  Identify even the most covert bullying situations.

  •  Infiltrate the world of cyberbullying and head off its disastrous effects.

  •  Intervene to stop a bullying situation.

  •  Know what legal recourse they have to back up other anti-bullying efforts.

For Kids:

The Recess Queen

By: Alexis O'Neill

ISBN-10: 0439206375

A fresh & original twist on the common issue of bullying. Kids will relate, & parents & teachers will appreciate the story's deft handling of conflict resolution (which happens w/o adult intervention).

The Bee Bully

By: Angela Muse

ISBN-10: 1478369329

This grumpy little bee does not treat his neighbors very well, but something happens to him that makes him change his ways. He soon learns that treating others with kindness is the best way to earn friends. 

Llama Llama and the Bully Goat

By: Anna Dewdney

Llama Llama is learning lots of new things at school and making many friends. But when Gilroy Goat starts teasing him and some of their classmates, Llama Llama isn't sure what to do. And then he remembers what his teacher told him—walk away and tell someone. It works! But then Llama Llama feels badly. Can he and Gilroy try to be friends again?

 Taking on a difficult but important part of children's lives, Anna Dewdney gives readers a way to experience and discuss bullying in a safe and comforting way. 

Just Kidding

By: Trudy Ludwig

ISBN-10: 1582461635

A rare look at emotional bullying among boys. D.J.'s friend Vince has a habit of teasing D.J. and then saying, Just kidding!" as if it will make everything okay. It doesn't, but D.J. is afraid that if he protests, his friends will think he can't take a joke. With the help of his father, brother, and an understanding teacher, D.J. progresses from feeling helpless to taking positive action, undermining the power of two seemingly harmless words. Trudy Ludwig takes another look at relational aggression, the use of relationships to manipulate and hurt others, this time from the boy's point of view.

Stand Up for Yourself and Your Friends: Dealing with Bullies and Bossiness and Finding a Better Way

By: Patti Kelley Criswell

ISBN-10: 1593694822

This book teaches girls how to spot bullying and how to stand up and speak out against it. Quizzes, quotes from other girls, and "what do you do?" scenarios present advice in an age-appropriate, digestible way. The message in this book is that there is no one right way to deal with bullying. Instead, there are lots of options for girls to try, from ignoring a bully and trying a few clever comebacks to reporting bullying to a trusted adult. Readers learn how to stand up for others and be a good friend, too. The book ends with a pledge girls can sign, plus tear-out tips for girls to share with their parents.


Every year, I do a lesson on self-bullying and I have the students write a love letter to themselves. Where it all begins....let's help our kids learn to love themselves and replace self-criticism with self-compassion.  Continue the lessons at home....with them and with yourself!

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